Don’t be a Punk! Fear the Lord

Don’t be a Punk! Fear the Lord

The other day the Holy Spirit dropped a DIME that I can’t seem to shake and I must share! I started to think about fear. I realized that you when people have told me to fear the Lord, I never really got it! I grew up where people would call you a punk if you feared anything. I thought being scared of God meant be scared, shake in my boots because God ‘ brought you in this world and He can take you out!’… I’ve learned that this is really not what the fear of the Lord should do. 

When you think of fear, you realize that because you are afraid of something, you become cautious and it causes you to act in a way to avoid the thing you are afraid of. We seem to fear what we are living for. Fear demonstrates what we value. I have a few good examples that the HS used to help me get this concept.

  1. Fear or worry about accomplishments Whether you are in school looking forward to passing the next exam or just holding your breath til you can walk across that stage. You may also find that you are working for a promotion or simply between jobs hoping for a call for an interview. These people are living in pursuit of an accomplishment. Under this type of fear, you work relentless to get achieve a specific task just to be sure that you ‘made it!’The fear in this may be of failure, looking stupid, going/being broke or simply not living up to a standard that they believe they should.
  2. Approval from others This one is a good one. I know I struggle with this one a lot. “Other” can be anyone! That parent you’ve always wanted to be proud of you; your favorite teacher because you knew he/she would be able to right a banging letter of recommendation for you; a supervisor that you knew had some say in your next pay raise or promotion; or that guy/girl you really want to impress {insert googly eyes}. No matter who the ‘other‘ is in your life, this is the person that causes you to act frantically to achieve sometimes extreme assignments in order to ensure you have their approval. Our fear here is that you will not obtain their approval or worse, lose it and disappoint them. We generally consider their approval before we make decisions.
  3. Public approval I think this is its own category even though this still technically approval from others. Ever find your self questioning (even if its internal) I wonder what others will think? Well I know that the struggle is REAL here! This is most certainly a common fear that drives us to act the way we think we should act in order to not be noticed for standing out in a notorious fashion. (No one wants to be the odd ball out, ever!) Be mindful that this isn’t always hiding your bad, its also hiding your good. Maybe you’ve heard this before but you might be the only Jesus people will see! Are you leading them in the right direction? Or are you afraid they will call you that fake christian because maybe you used to run amuck with them… (true story: its hard to be good around the people you used to be bad with- they’d love to call you a hypocrite) Here the fear is simply judgement. We don’t want people to ‘think’ we are abnormal ((even though the bible says that we are not of this world although we live in it)), so we silently to stand up for the truest part of ourselves because we simply cannot take public disapproval that would come with being real! We aren’t ourselves out of fear of humiliation and/or disapproval.

Ultimately, we must learn to fear the Lord. Fear of the Lord will cause us to believe that if we do not obey His commands, we will disappoint Him. Be sure to know that the Lord loves you unconditionally, nothing we do or don’t do will make Him love us any more or less! But fear of the Lord should cause us to live for His approval above all else! We want the Lord to be pleased with our lives and how we live.  Fear of the Lord is not spooky stuff but it is the motivating feelings that drive our lives. Instead of living for the approval of people or to achieve a specific accomplishment, we should be living for the obedience of God’s will in our lives. This obedience stems from fear of not pleasing the Lord, fear of not being/doing what he wants us to.  Remember that God loves us regardless of what we do, why not please such a loving God?!

I hope you were able to see what the Holy Spirit showed me fear of the Lord is. Lets make an effort to exhibit fear of the Lord by obedience.

Until next post…

Kence

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Overcoming Worry While You’re Waiting #WaitingWell

Overcoming Worry While You’re Waiting on Something/Someone

“Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes.”

‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭6:11‬ ‭NIV‬‬

{Ephesians 6: 10-18}

This post is short but really important in our walk as Christians. We must be mindful of the schemes of the enemy and use what we’ve got to overcome them. Using your FULL armor even when it comes to battles you cannot see, like worry. Shoes of peace. Pray for peace of mind as you stand firm with the belt of truth. Use that shield of faith. Don’t let your faith be wavered. Trust in the Lord to fulfill His plan. Continue to do the right thing. Breast plate of righteousness. While keeping your head in the game (helmet of salvation) and using the Word (sword of the Spirit) to combat any lies the enemy has been trying to feed you!

Watch Out for the Scheme

Worry is wavering of faith. Proof that the enemy’s schemes are getting to you. Be confident that the Lord will grant you what He has already planned for you. Worrying wont give you more food, more clothes, or more days to live.

Keep your eyes on the Prize

Worrying keeps your eyes on the thing (that can move/change) instead of the immovable God that already knows the plan! Keep focused. The waiting period seems to be SO long sometimes. It gets hard to hold on to the faith that brought you here. Remember that the Lord will bring you through this period and to that thing you’ve been waiting on.

This post is a live (and breathing) reminder to myself that I want to use to encourage others that when the waiting gets tough… keep waiting. Pray for patience as you endure to the end of this time but the Lord is faithful and He will come through. This is the testing period. This is where the Lord is testing your heart! So keep your heart in check. Make sure your intentions align with the Lord’s Will. Continue to fervently seek the Lord’s face. May the Lord give us strength to keep our eyes on Him so that our faith may not waver as worry tries to sneak in and steal the focus.

Until next post…

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Kence

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Getting Past Pride

How Pride Gets in the Way

I was praying about how to speak about pride and my mind just went blank. Every route I wanted to go, I dint want to make that turn. #Pride My conclusion was pride is a constant struggle and (like love) we should be intentionally trying to work towards humility. This post is simply a reminder that we should not allow pride to get in the way and block our next step toward destiny.

Black Panther movie came out maybe a week or two ago. I decided that I was going to wait for the movie to get released on bootleg or DVD at the nail salon before I would see it because I was not going to the theater alone (on valentine’s weekend). After I kept hearing the hype, I decided that maybe I should go see the movie, but I really don’t want people to know that I had to go to the movies by myself. (Talk about a battle with pride). After much internal turmoil, I determined that the source of my decision was pride and basically a result of keeping up with the Jones’ syndrome (which many of us have a strain of).

Why Pride?

Pride is a good way to hide whatever is really going on that you do not want people to see. We use pride to disguise the real us that we believe will be judged or unaccepted by others. I don’t have a fake relationship but I definitely did not want to highlight my single-ness by going to the movies on my lonesome.

Humble YO-self

The fix for pride is humbling thy self!! It sounds simple but man is it hard to let go of pride and doing that one thing we didn’t want to do!?! I had a friend who was courting a man and he hadn’t called in a few days and she decided that she was not going to call him either! #Pride can make you lose! I offered her this suggestion: “Humble yourself!” It’s not OK to pridefully ignore the situation and act like everything is copasetic, then when he finally calls, you’ll blow up or passive aggressively give him the cold shoulder to make him ‘chase you.’ Ladies, we can’t be foolish! Pride is a fast way to lose the man. Humble yourself and get to the point. Talk about what is really going on.

Journey to Overcoming Pride

Pride is one of those things that people don’t really talk about, they just show it. If they have a lot of it, you can’t expect them to say they are prideful. But as maturing Christians, I believe this is an area we all need constant work on. Start with the small things, apologizing for your wrongs, having tough conversations with people we have offended and even with the ones who offended us that we can’t seem to muster up the energy to talk to (pride) because they should be the ones to approach us! There are countless ways and reasons for our pride. Regardless of how fancy you can make the excuse look, we should suffocate our prideful self and work on strengthening our humble nature.

I pray that the Lord will grant us strength to do this daily as we interact with one another. As we humble ourselves, we will be able to destroy the negative influence pride is having on our families, friendships and relationships. #Amen

Until Next Post….

~ Kence

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Developing the Right “Sis-mance”

Developing the right “Sis-mance”

My cousin 'Black'

My cousin ‘Black’

         How to overcome awkwardness & make Qualified Friends

Happy 2018 Everyone!! I am so excited to be back in action. I have had so many DIMES piling up. This post will discuss overcoming awkwardness and making the right friends.

I know the term Bro-Mance is a term coined to talk about the relationship between two males, so I figured I’d talk about our relationships with other women. I find that I am often really awkward. This may stem from me being self-conscious of how I will be perceived by new people. Regardless, I just get awkward sometimes. #FakeShy I started to pray about this at the beginning of the year to discover why I have this issue and how I can overcome it. I have learned a few things and I just want to share some tips with any of you that may need help overcoming your awkward.

  1. Be at the Right Place

Ladies, lets be clear, just like you may not find a quality man at the club, you will not find a quality friend just anywhere. You’ve got to be at the right place. The other day, I finally decided that it was time for me to go to the pool. (It was my New Year’s thing for 2018) I timidly walked into the pool and this girl was there. She welcomed me and just started helping with my technique. (Look at God!) If I kept avoiding the darn pool, I would have never found a new friends that would help me gain the courage to begin swimming. You can find quality friends anywhere you can find people doing quality activities. Work, church, volunteering, dance classes, etc. When we find these people in quality places that we enjoy being at, we will enjoy their company. Get out there! Your sister to help you in this season is out there doing something that you want to start doing.

  1. Be “On People” (Sou Moun)

Growing up in a Haitian house the term “Sou Moun” (translated directly to English as ‘On people’) describes an individual that can be seen as needy or always seeking attention from people. For example, walking up to new people and asking too many questions or asking for too much. Now-a-days we may say “she’s so extra!” or “That girl is doing too much!” All of these are modern ways of saying someone is sou moun. We were taught to stay in our place and never do too much! Needless to say, this has shaped my personality and is likely the cause to my awkwardness. Haitians would practically embarrass you for being sou moun! So it was evident early on that you should never ‘do too much.’ SMH This is definitely why your girl can easily get fake shy when naturally this is not what my out-of-the-box personality wants to do. The fix here is just be sou moun! Be on people!!! No matter what people (including my parents) have to say, I try so hard to just get out of my head and just walk up to people and talk to them. Operation ignore the shy girl in my head.

  • Be Yourself

Often times, I think we confuse what our parents, peers, and/or society wants us to be for who we really are. Just be you. Unapologetically! It’s important. If you are not living in truth, eventually you will get tired of faking it and you will slip. I can’t be shy for too long, at some point someone will say something that will make me want to jump out of my ‘shy’ self and say something! You can’t make real friends if you show them your fake side (the side you think they will approve of). Eventually they will smell through the fake and know exactly who you are. Be you! They will either hate it or love it. If your worry about how people feel about you cause you to change just to seek their approval or friendship, you’re really just losing yourself to gain a friend. Your hunt to finding a quality friend should include you being a quality person. You are the best quality when you are yourself.

  1. Ditch the Weight

Have you ever had those friends that make you work too hard!?! Its like going to the gym and picking up a 10 lb set of weights because you thought you could handle it. Then after 5 minutes into the workout, you realize that weight might make it hard for you to keep up for the duration of the class. So if you are me, you will ditch it for the 2.5 lb weights and keep it pushing!

Some of our friends are needy! They require too much energy just to keep them happy enough not to ruin everyone else’ day. Its ok to give validation to your friends (iron sharpens iron). But when all you do is pour into them and you aren’t receiving, this is a place of concern. This sisterhood is certainly not healthy. You should always have a friend that can give to you as much as you give. Not saying an eye for an eye, but balance. If your friends love language is acts of service, you should be willingly helping her do things. If your love language is words of affirmation, its fair to find a friend that will compliment you when you got on cute shoes or a new hair do.

All of this is not to replace your man, but in any -ship (relationship, friendship, etc.) this is really the bare minimum. If you hold this standard, you can easily gain quality friends and keep your Sis-Mance poppin’. No one likes losing friends, but if we ensure that we are ourselves ALWAYS, there’s nothing to lose, just plenty of friends to gain.

 

Until next post…

~ Kence

 

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It Takes A Village…

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The Village is everyone, everywhere!

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The village is everywhere!! Before children are walking/talking, they are capable of navigating through electronic devices. It’s almost amazing how effortlessly it happens. Its also very scary! YouTube is awesome and scary at the same time. Those next video suggestions that come up don’t always relate to the previous video, needless to say, your kids aren’t always watching innocent cartoon shows! The same works with the television. I have to say, I really do not believe in a TVs in the bedroom! Many think I’m a little extra for this but the truth is, we should be supervising what are children are consuming. “You are what you eat!” So we’ve got to watch what we are allowing our children to consume. This e-generation is causing our children not to read on time or as early as children used to. But of course they are pretty tech savvy!

Outside of the house, you’ve got the boys/girls in the hood. This is basically the peers of our children. We know kids are always watching and listening! Despite the fact that we don’t let kids outside as much as we used to (we won’t discuss obesity); when they are outside, they are learning from these people that they see interacting in the streets of our neighborhoods.

School
Let’s be clear, when we send our children to school, the teachers are not the only ones teaching! Students go to school to learn social behaviors as well as academics. Let’s talk about recess. Recess is where it all goes down! Students are alert and learning from each other in that sandbox or under the swings. Why do you think our young kids come home learning news dances and saying phrases that you never taught them. They actually get it from their peers in school, who got it from their many influences (often times older siblings, boys/girls in their neighborhoods, etc.).

Church
Same thing goes for the Church. We send our children to Sunday school and church but some of the kids in the classroom are bringing knowledge from the classroom or their neighborhood. Many of them may be really paying attention and learning spiritual matters, but we cannot be blind to the fact that some of our children are learning social behaviors from the children and youth at our churches (that pick it up from elsewhere).

Don’t Shelter, Filter!

This is scary! As a single woman with no children, but a whole lot of nieces, nephews, cousins and kids around me, I am scared to have children in this world. I go back and forth with the idea that I want 8 kids so that my children have plenty of sibling-friends or just not having any children at all. Eventually my children have to go outside and I don’t want them to catch whatever seems to be in the air with the kids out there these days!

My advice, don’t shelter your kids, just filter! Filter what they are watching, filter who they spend time with, filter everything. No need to get crazy (like I assume I may be at the beginning when I have my first child). But we have to pay attention to what has our children’s attention. Many defects are developed in childhood. We can help shape our children by simply explaining to our children why we do not allow them to watch certain shows or hang out with children whose parents don’t supervise them. The scariest story is the ones where children go to a ‘friend’s house’ and are left unsupervised, then they come home speechless. Years later, parents find out that something inappropriate happened because the friend simply let the kids do what they wanted in the back room without supervision, assuming they were good.

Pray and Teach

All we can do is pray for our children and teach them the right path.
‘Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. ‘
Proverbs 22:6

‘Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. ‘
Philippians 4:6

Prayer is truly the only way to cover your child. We can’t shelter them. We may not always be able to filter who/what they will encounter. (Won’t even mention police brutality or molestation from family members teachers, coaches and priests). You really can’t depend on people! Instead of worrying, we can choose to train our children up in an upright manner and pray for them and with them!

We should take some of that TV or YouTube time and create at-home bible study/prayer time. Just the same way we can’t expect our children to learn everything in the classroom from their teachers, we most certainly cannot depend on the Sunday School teacher to teach our children all spiritual matters themselves. We must be teaching our children at home. Homework is more than academics! They need to be building their characters as early as they are learning the ABCs, they can be learning/memorizing bible verses (that’s the sword, they will need that later!). As they are learning about bullying, they can be learning about compassion and the Love of God. We must be intentional with raising our children. Teach them to pray by actually praying with them and letting them take the lead. We must teach our kids at home all of the things they may not find in other places in the Village.

We are the Village

Don’t let the streets raise your kids. As the notorious Auntie Kencia, the kids around me know when I come through, I’m asking about God, school and life! It’s corny and may seem annoying at the time, but the truth is, I have realized my place in the village. Some of their parents don’t have the time to ask some of the questions that I ask their kids, so I play my part. I shape the children around me. I urge you to do that same! Pray for the children around you. If you see them slip up, shape them up! You don’t always have to beat children to keep them in check. Ask my nieces and nephews, Auntie Kencia is Queen of Lectures! They probably hurt worse than the beating, I always make them shed a tear or two, but the lesson sticks more than the beatings! Even doing a shoulder drive-by. Take a look over their shoulders to see what the kids are watching on their electronic devices. Let’s play our part in the village. We have to watch what our kids are eating and doing! Eventually, they will be the doctors that operate on us, pastors that pray with us, engineers that build for us, etc. We have to mind their future success even if they do not understand why now. It’s our job to train up our children and shape them now!

I pray that you were blessed and you were encouraged to go and play your role in the village so we can shape our children in the right way!

Until Next Post…

~ Kence

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The Weight Loss Yo-Yo

We all get to the place where we start to get focused on a goal and we go IN! But then somewhere past that, reality hits and you lose your focus. If you don’t know much about Oprah, you do know that she has been small, big, and medium like eighty times. This is known as weight cycling or the weight loss yo-yo. In this post, I briefly discuss the journey through the cycle and how to get out of the yo-yo.

Many of you may know, I started to lose weight back in June 2015. I really transformed into a new person. I got focused and started to shed weight. I lost 80lbs the first year. I went to the gym, I barely kept up Insanity videos at home (but I did low moderation 2-3 times a week), I went for run/walks and ate right. Life was great. It seemed so simple. Eventually life happened. Shawty started living/eating right part-time. I would skip days at the gym. I got tired just thinking about Insanity or any workout videos. I ate more cheat meals. I slowly lost focus. I began to get comfortable. Many of my friends and family would compliment me on my progress (whether it was genuine or not, I’m still not sure). People would simply say “you look good, girl!” almost effortlessly (some days I even looked a HOT mess) because they believed that’s what I wanted/needed to hear their compliment. I somehow allowed those compliments to make me lose focus. I decided that this was a good enough weight because people finally noticed my progress. Obviously my eyes were on the wrong prize! Had I been focused on the right thing, I would have remained steadfast in my journey to eating right for life.

I want to encourage you to get back on the horse! Gaining weight after you know what size you used to be is the worst (especially for us ladies). Its about your focus. Get your mind back in the game! Below are a few points that I think will help as you jump out of the weight loss yo-yo

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((June 2015 to Sept 2016))

Jeans Don’t Lie: Get over it!

If you find yourself in a rut because you notice that the jeans don’t fit, make your move! Don’t just get mad/sad and complain. You’ve got to get that behind up and get back to the basics! Start today. I hate that ‘tomorrow’ or worse, ‘I’ll start Monday!’ No you wont! You should start today.

Proverbs 27:1 says Don’t brag about tomorrow, since you don’t know what that day will bring.

Need I say more!? You don’t know if you have tomorrow. Take action today. Even if you lose an ounce today, you really just got your head in the game. Tomorrow you are likely to do better because you know that you had progress. The thing about little progress, is ITS PROGRESS!!! Stop playing, get over the rut and get up!

Ignore the Noise

Your friends and family are all noisy! The compliments or the discouragement about your appearance should not be the reason for your drive. You really need to find your motivation within. As a child of a Haitian, I have to suffer from the bi-polar directions on how to look. My mom will tell me that I need to lose weight, out of concern that I’m too big and its unhealthy. But then after I finally began the journey, she would express concern that I am getting too skinny (my “collar bone is sticking out”). As you would imagine, that’s too much to be trying to keep up with. There is enough noise in your head as the Enemy feeds your thoughts about your self image and how it relates to your worth. Not to add watching TV or looking at magazines to see ‘beautiful’ people that you would love to look like. The truth is you’ve got to write down the goal and put it up some where you can see it. I would like to say put your written goal (Habakkuk 2:2) in your prayer closet so that you don’t forget to pray about it everyday. While you’re at it, pray for the haters that are distracting you from your focus.

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Remain Consistent

That’s the name of the game! You just gotta stick with it. Don’t allow your schedule to get so busy that you don’t have the time to keep up with your goal. I love this quote: “I don’t diet. I just eat according to my goals.” If I could change it, I would say schedule your life around your goals. If you want to be connected with God, you should have quiet time on your calendar. Same thing with fitness, you should schedule your gym dates and even your meal prep times. My friends know my calendar is my life (literally). If you don’t have a slot on there, you won’t be seen. Put a reminder on your phone. Keep the sneakers in your trunk. Always have a gym bag. You will eliminate excuses.

Those are my pointers on getting over the weight loss cycle. I hope you are encourage to get back on track. Comment below if you have any questions, I would love to encourage you throughout your journey. May the Lord grant you the determination and focus to remain consistent and focused until you meet your goal and He returns (and you’ll be all sexy!). Amen!

Until Next Post…

~Kence

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The Race ‘Number One’ ain’t Win

The Race #1 Didn’t Win

Ever wonder why people race to through traffic to get someplace 2.5 seconds before time or to beat you to something? The bible shows where racing and getting there first isn’t all that matters. The Holy Spirit showed me that I should stop acting like He don’t speak to ‘familiar’ situation! I was listening/reading (I’m an auditory learner) my bible as I always do- to a very familiar bible story. I was listening to the story about the Resurrection of Jesus Christ (John 20). I promise I never heard the story like I did today. I’ve always known the basics but this time around, the Lord showed me something that convicted me about giving up or being discouraged about not being first. 

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John 19:3-10 is the passage:

3Peter and the other disciple started out for the tomb. 4They were both running, but the other disciple outran Peter and reached the tomb first. 5He stooped and looked in and saw the linen wrappings lying there, but he didn’t go in. 6Then Simon Peter arrived and went inside. He also noticed the linen wrappings lying there, 7while the cloth that had covered Jesus’ head was folded up and lying apart from the other wrappings. 8Then the disciple who had reached the tomb first also went in, and he saw and believed—9for until then they still hadn’t understood the Scriptures that said Jesus must rise from the dead. 10Then they went home.

The lesson

I would like to start by saying the author said peter and ‘the other guy!” I smiled when I heard this because they didn’t even mention his name… obviously he didn’t matter. But apparently these guys were racing to the tomb to go check things out. Maybe they weren’t racing each other but there so happened to be a winner (I’m just saying- I’m competitive, somebody’s got to win!). But what struck me as I continued listening, was that when he got to the tomb, homeboy peaked inside and didn’t go in! WHAT!?! All of that for what?? You get there first and you don’t even want to go in? Stop playing!

Verse 6 says that when Peter got there, he just went right inside! No games, no jokes. He went to do what he came (ran) here for! But then in verse 8, you see that dude went in after Peter.

 A DIME for us

There will be people in life that will race to places just to win or look good. This does not mean that the spot is not for you. Also, did you notice that there was a sense of fear in the guy when he reached the tomb. It wasn’t until he saw peter go inside boldly that he gained the courage to follow suit and go inside the tomb. Needless to say that he ‘won’ by getting there first but ultimately, he gained more from the experience because he was able to believe that Jesus wasn’t playing when He said in three days He was coming out of that tomb!

People will be ‘out here in these streets’ trying to out-do you in many things. It’s up to us to confidently keep our pace (patiently knowing), when we get to the destination, we have a purpose. Once fulfilled, our purpose will even help the faith of the people that were trying to be in competition in the first place. I always say watch out for the sly people in your life, but here the HS showed me that they are there for a reason. Like the ‘nobody’ (unnamed disciple) in the text, these people don’t matter to us but the Lord is working on something. In the end, you will be the one He uses to check that person.

I pray that you are patient as you proceed in life and the Lord uses you to make believers out of these people that may sometimes seem impossible to deal with. If you are as competitive as me, I pray that our lessons don’t hurt! Stop rushing. Aimlessly running places and then fearfully getting into situations we can’t handle. Let’s prayerfully run to do what we are called to do so that when we get there and fulfil our purpose, someone will have faith. Even if they were originally in the way. I hope you got something from this DIME.

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Until next post…

 

  • Kence    

 

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Its a New Season: Get Ready!!

 New Season

 
As my last day of work is approaching, the Holy Spirit has been urging me to get ready for a new season. Every time someone passes me, they ask, “Are you ready? Are you counting down?” Honestly, I’m not. Not sure what I’m feeling… I guess I’m still in my old season. I was listening to a sermon series by John Gray from Lakewood church about season changes and I got a DIME. Three things need to be done when shifting seasons. Determine, pray, and prepare for the season.
 
Determine your season:
You can either be in a sowing season or in a harvest. Its important to know where you are so that you are doing the right thing. No sense in looking for harvest when you should be sowing. I’ve spent the last few days working and getting things ready for a smooth transition out. If I decided to leave my work unorganized or just decided not to work at all after I presented my notice, I would be burning a bridge. I know that the last 3 years can’t go to waste in my last two weeks because I got too excited that I was leaving. This is the end of my sowing season, so the hard work doesn’t stop yet.
 
 27th Birthday Party
 
I like to say that I give good/thoughtful gifts. I don’t believe in ‘half stepping’ on anything I do, but especially gifts. At some point I started to get discouraged because sometimes I wasn’t receiving the Thank You’s and appreciation I wanted. I had to pray for the Lord to sooth my heart and revise my intentions. I knew the Lord was pleased with my acts of generosity but I had to stop expecting a jumping and shouting of joy every time someone opened a gift box from Kence- it caused a lot of disappointment-for real! But I noticed I gave a lot more gifts than I received. I even had a hard time accepting the few I got because it was so unusual. Now I realize, that was my time of sowing. This past year I started to shift seasons, I had a huge birthday party at a bowling alley (crazy- never expected so much love), my launch party was a success (mad love again), my graduation was celebrated with lots of love and gifts! I noticed I was getting more love/gifts (interchangeable because acts of service is a gift to me) than usual. Things as simple as a Thank You note, a $5 gift card, a lunch date to a local restaurant or even as big as a FAT check! Its clear to me now, that my season of sowing has now shifted to harvest and I can now get used to receiving because this is the season I’m in.

 

At the end of the night, I was so overwhelmed so I took a group pic with the people that were still there

At the end of the night, I was so overwhelmed so I took a group pic with the people that were still there

 

Pray for the new season:
 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:6‬ ‭NIV‬‬
Be sure to go about all things prayerfully!
 
Going to a new season requires wisdom. You may not know what to expect. I know I get nervous every time I think about leaving my current position for a new position. I’m nervous that because its a ‘new place,’ I won’t know what to expect. It took my 3 years to get used to my role and the people around me. My constant prayer is for the Lord to give me wisdom as I go into this new place. I even added prayers about new work friends. Its so hard to leave the comfortable old for the scary new. So I’m sure to pray that the Lord will go ahead of me and provide me with the wisdom and courage I will need to step into new territory boldly knowing this new season is my next destination in His great plan for my life path and purpose.
 
Prepare for the new season:
Lastly, we need to prepare! Get ready!! For me, I’m starting my preparation with a vacation. I know the power of a renewed mind and know that I have to take time to allow the Holy Spirit to pour into me. Coming out of a season of sowing can certainly be draining and I’m tired (in my country accent- TaYYYY’d)!!! I know I’ve been working my butt off trying to make sure everyone is ok at my current job before I leave, so much so I haven’t even thought about the little things for the new journey that’s about to kick off. After a week off, I can pray and get a refreshed spirit to start this new season off right! I know that once I get through my preparation, I will be set to begin my new season confidently knowing that the Lord has me there for a mission.
 
So, my people, this short post is to simply encourage anyone moving from one season to the next… get ready!! God’s certainly got something waiting for ya! Identify your season, pray for the new one and get ready to go in!! 😜
 
God bless ya!
 

Until next post…

 

– Kence

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The Threat of the Big Ant

Big Ant Syndrome

I was on the phone with a friend the other day and got news that she has big ant syndrome (totally made up by me).

I went for a walk and I saw this big ant. I stopped and starred at it for a few seconds. Then I found myself a little nervous so i stepped on it. I didn’t step on it for a particular reason, mostly just because it was big and it bothered me. The ant was a black ant, we all know black ants don’t bite. I just decided, it didn’t need to live so that it could reproduce more of its kind (cruel, I know).

While I was speaking to my friend, she described a situation where she was just doing what she was called to do. She is an up and coming dancer. She also dances with other good dancers, but her career  is a little more promising because she has been making appearances on big stages with famous artists. Off stage, she still dances with her friends for smaller gigs (church or other shows that they are invited to perform at).

She called me frustrated with her dancemates because she was under scruntiny (something like the ant) because she was now the big ant on the same stage as them. When she was not performing for big name artists, she was not a threat, she was just ‘one of them.’ If ever she had an ‘off day,’ it was simply that. But now, her friends consider her to be a threat so they shame her for an off day.

I had to explain to my friend that this big ant syndrome comes with the new territory. As you get bigger, people will start to attack you because you’re bigger than the rest of them. All ants we see aren’t big ones. Big ants are unusual. Thus, you are unusual. You are chosen. They hatin’!! You’re no longer one of them so you have to understand that its normal for such actions to come from these people. So ladies and gents, I pray that y’all can realize that as you move up, you are threathening the people in your former circle because you are a big ant! Dont take it personal. Recognize it and start chilling with the big ants! I heard this quote, “Since we can’t change people, change the people around us.” As you change the people around you, the new people will teach you lessons and help you grow rather than scrutinize you or hurt your feelings as an attempt to keep you stagnant.

I pray that this DIME will encourage you to evaluate your circle. If you’re the big ant, don’t get stepped on just for being different. Recognize your gift and thrive with the big ants.

Until next post….

Kence

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