The Threat of the Big Ant

Big Ant Syndrome

I was on the phone with a friend the other day and got news that she has big ant syndrome (totally made up by me).

I went for a walk and I saw this big ant. I stopped and starred at it for a few seconds. Then I found myself a little nervous so i stepped on it. I didn’t step on it for a particular reason, mostly just because it was big and it bothered me. The ant was a black ant, we all know black ants don’t bite. I just decided, it didn’t need to live so that it could reproduce more of its kind (cruel, I know).

While I was speaking to my friend, she described a situation where she was just doing what she was called to do. She is an up and coming dancer. She also dances with other good dancers, but her career  is a little more promising because she has been making appearances on big stages with famous artists. Off stage, she still dances with her friends for smaller gigs (church or other shows that they are invited to perform at).

She called me frustrated with her dancemates because she was under scruntiny (something like the ant) because she was now the big ant on the same stage as them. When she was not performing for big name artists, she was not a threat, she was just ‘one of them.’ If ever she had an ‘off day,’ it was simply that. But now, her friends consider her to be a threat so they shame her for an off day.

I had to explain to my friend that this big ant syndrome comes with the new territory. As you get bigger, people will start to attack you because you’re bigger than the rest of them. All ants we see aren’t big ones. Big ants are unusual. Thus, you are unusual. You are chosen. They hatin’!! You’re no longer one of them so you have to understand that its normal for such actions to come from these people. So ladies and gents, I pray that y’all can realize that as you move up, you are threathening the people in your former circle because you are a big ant! Dont take it personal. Recognize it and start chilling with the big ants! I heard this quote, “Since we can’t change people, change the people around us.” As you change the people around you, the new people will teach you lessons and help you grow rather than scrutinize you or hurt your feelings as an attempt to keep you stagnant.

I pray that this DIME will encourage you to evaluate your circle. If you’re the big ant, don’t get stepped on just for being different. Recognize your gift and thrive with the big ants.

Until next post….

Kence

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Fill My Cup

(Almost better than my mom Papaya Juice)
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 What are you Filled With?

I find that I have friends that always seem to be ‘busy’ doing stuff. Many times I wonder what is the fruit of their busy-ness!?! After some thought, I realized that their cups are full of stuff. Just stuff. They fill up their time and energy doing stuff. As I started to think about this, the Holy Spirit dropped a DIME about filling up your cup (time and energy) with meaningless tasks and things just to look a certain way. This blog post is to encourage everyone to stop trying to do what seems cool, cute, ‘godly’, popular, etc. Do what you know is right and Christ-centered. Let’s veer away from doing things for show… after all who cares what the people think!? They will not be signing your approval ticket to heaven!

 

(Photos from dinner in Boca Chica, Dominican Republic)
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Toxins

Be careful not to fill your cup with toxins. Many things can be considered a toxin: friends or relationships, TV shows we watch (ratchet TV), or simply being too busy for anyone or anything. These things serve as distractions. We must fill our cups with substance that will sustain us. Stop wasting time with temporary satisfaction (lustful things) that will make us feel good for the moment. Something like drinking for a Friday night buzz, then waking up to a hangover on Saturday. It might be difficult to enjoy the next day because you are suffering for that temporary buzz you wanted the night before. Whether your Friday night toxin is a relationship that you cherish so much, or even some activity that you spend unnecessary time on, when they are gone, they may leave you lonely, hurt and damaged.

Too much ‘good’ stuff

There is definitely such thing as too much good stuff. We all know that cake is not a good food, but foods like peanuts, bananas or avocados are likely to be classified as good food. There is such thing as having too much of these, it can become an issue. Filling up our cups with good stuff is cool but remember it’s just stuff! Things like working to make money, working endlessly on educating yourself to get the next level of qualifications, or even volunteering for all sorts of events. Keep in mind that you cannot work your way into heaven. Your works will not be the reason you get in, so fill your cup up with substance, not works to be seen or stuff to impress!

The good thing

Let’s fill ourselves up with God! The bible says that once we seek the Kingdom, all the other stuff will follow (Matthew 6:33). Notice the order? The Kingdom first. Then everything else will come. You will get what you need and the ‘good’ stuff. Filling up your cup with God is full of benefits! You will gain fruit and show it. That’s your substance. With this substance, you will also be able to fill someone else up! You will (naturally) give people what you have. Thus, when you are filled with good substance, you can pour out good substance. If you only have a cup filled of nothingness, that’s what you will spread.

God-Sized void

There is a God-sized void that can only be filled with God! No thing or person will ever be able to fill it. If you put a circular object in a square hole, there will always be space that is not filled, which will cause disappointment. One day the harsh reality will come when you realize that money cannot buy you happiness, that relationship that seemed so perfect falls apart, or your education just could not get you that perfect job you thought you were qualified to land. The hard core truth is that people and things will certainly let you down. If that is what you fill your cup with, you will one day find yourself devastated when they are gone. Fill your cup with substance that will give you life and last to the end of time.

 

Until Next Post…

-Kence

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Graduate From Former Relationships

Graduate From Former Relationships

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I was listening to a woman tell her story and she said something that blew my mind! So I revamped it and put it on my Facebook page:

“When a PURPOSEFUL relationship has FULFILLED its purpose, its over! These relationships can last 3 weeks, 6 months, or 25 years! Learn what you were supposed to learn, and move on! It was purposeful, not a forever thing. –Even if they want to ‘go back to the way it was/used to be.’ You can’t! You have learned what you were supposed to, you fulfilled purpose there, and learned your lesson. Now you should move on to mold into what you were created to be.”

I could probably go on and on about this topic. But MAN did it hit me over the head when I heard it. I am a people pleaser. Often times, I sacrifice a lot in order to make sure that the people around me are comfortable. Most especially my friends and family. I aim to make quality time with me pleasant and effortless. When it comes to bad news or even sticking up for myself, I have trouble (so I hold it in –which is obviously NOT GOOD!). Overtime, I know I should not stick around people that make me feel this way, but I have so much trouble letting go and moving on. Mostly, it’s because I don’t want to hurt them (believe it or not) even in situations where they have hurt or offended me.

Moving on for what Purpose?

This can change for any relationship. Some people passed through your live to teach you patience. They show you patience in everything. They do not yell, they teach you through their actions. Some are there to help you through school. There are those friends that hold you accountable with your schoolwork and keep you grounded when you want to give up on your journey to graduation. You may find people that came through your life to enhance your knowledge. They are skilled in what they do. They teach you the art/skill needed to build a business, (like using a computer software or curling hair). You learn that they are a great teacher but besides what they are an expert at; they bear no real good fruit… In every relationship, you both should benefit. For example a working relationship: maybe you are good at delegating tasks and they are good at executing. That’s good. When you get to the place where your business flourishes and you need more, you will have to get new people that can do more or teach you other skills necessary to make the business thrive.

After hearing about this purposeful relationships thing, it clicked! All of this served a purpose! The bible says that we should be happy in our times of suffering because it builds perseverance, character and hope (Romans 5: 3-4). When we get to these moments where we realize that we can no longer keep the company we have been entertaining, or that our current friends have served their purpose, it’s time to let go and move on. Pray for the Lord to guide you as you act obediently. But this is not to say cut off all your friends because they serve you no purpose. No! Not what I’m saying. You must exercise discernment as you examine the relationships in your life. We know that you should know people by their fruit (Matt. 7:18-20). If you know that every time you are with this individual, you magically start gossiping or doing unruly acts, perhaps they aren’t good company. Another example is when you realize that the conversation is dry! When you talk about your passions or your calling, they don’t want to hear it or simply change the topic to a TV show they watched last year or the next place they want to take you out. That stuff is not impressive! They should be teaching you as you teach them. If they aren’t passionate about the things you are passionate about, they should at least show interest. Once you begin to bear fruit and you notice that the people around you are not comfortable with your growth, that’s it! That’s the cue. You have grown out of that relationship; move on!

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That’s it?!?!

When you a purpose-fulfilled relationship is expired, this does not always mean that you should cut them off and never see them again. It means that you are no longer operating this relationship in the same capacity. If you called your girlfriend everyday and conversation becomes long gossip chats before, start calling her less often simply to check in and see how she is doing, offer advice when asked, and even pray with her. If it’s a romantic relationship, obviously, it’s scissor season… Chop, chop! No need for further communication with an ex-boyfriend because you may find yourself still ‘kicking it’ with him later, saying, “We’re just friends!” Save yourself the later drama, cut him off. But you can still be {facebook} friends! He can see the life update as you update statuses for the world to see. Be sure not to entertain that DM when he tries to ‘slide’ and see how you doing.

Be mindful that you will never find a perfect friend or man here on earth. You can, however, grow out of people like you grow out of clothes. It’s ok as long as you recognize it and get new ones before you damage the current clothes. We do not want to damage our relationships with these people if we stick around expecting them to be on this new level with us. Recognize that you have outgrown that relationship and you may need to move on in order to learn more. I like to think of it like high school. You cannot stay. It was nice. You learned. But you have to move on to college. You can go back and visit or even be a guest speaker, but you are no longer able to sit in those seats and expect to elevate to the next level. Get around people that are better than you and are who you want to be.

Congratulations! If you are reading this, you are probably soon to be a graduate of some relationship. This could be an old fling you just could not shake or an old friend. Often time we put on our superman hats and just want to save relationships that we have graduated from; It’s time to move on! I pray that the Lord will give you the strength, courage and boldness to make the move.

Happy moving, folks!

Until next post,

-Kence

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Photo Credit: My dear friend, Tammy

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Be Abundantly Sympathetic

 

Dinner on the beach in Dominican Republic (excuse the stranger in the background photobombing)

A little busy, Show a little sympathy

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Why am I so busy!?:

 I have realized that what others do in a week, I can get done in a day. I have an itch to do more. Every other day I want to stop and ‘pipe down’ so that I can ‘be normal’. Normal: Wake up, go to work, get home (be tired) and go to sleep. Then I realize that not being normal is ok! Some days I don’t go to sleep until late and wake up extremely early. I’m sometimes reading or watching videos on my next project (whether that’s a topic I’m studying to teach, workouts I’m preparing, or just filling myself up with knowledge –sometimes just mindless reruns of my old favorite television shows). Not everyone can achieve or do what you can. I have learned that I have to find my thing and just be great at that. Even if people don’t get it or think I’m weird… just be your greatness and try not to knock the people that don’t get it, they will ‘get it’ when they find their thing!

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A heart of sympathy:

I used to get frustrated when people ‘act lazy’ or couldn’t keep up. I have grown to know that it’s just who they are. Not everyone is built with the same type of stamina for the things that I am good at or enjoy doing. I see people who have a fire for Christ and can pray for hours on in, yet they can’t run a mile –that’s just not their thing. Or people that can speak very well in public but cannot cook for nothing. Or even people that volunteer for every single church event but can never really get to their bible to do their own personal devotions. As you can see from these very bogus examples, they are unrelated because people have their own gifts. Each of us has our own gifts (Romans 12:6-8), be sympathetic to those that do not have your gift(s) as they try to give it their best (Colossians 3:23). If the prayer warrior wants to lose weight but can’t keep up with your daily 3 mile running challenge, take baby steps –take them walking as they teach you to pray. Start with one mile. Eventually, maybe during your walks with the prayer warrior, you will learn to pray more fervently and they will begin to jog. When we have sympathy (insert patience here too), we are then better able to shine our light so that people can see the God in you (Matt. 5:14-16).

When you get overwhelmed, be careful not to snap on the people around. You can take a step back to be sure to show some compassion to the person struggling to do what they are not naturally comfortable doing. No matter what type of warrior you are (walking, prayer, public speaker, volunteer warrior, etc.), demonstrate compassion and you will be showing people the love of God.

until next post…

 

– Kence

 

 

Bible references:

“We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your faith; if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead, do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully.”

Romans 12:6-8

https://www.bible.com /bible/111/ROM.12.6-8

 

“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters,”

Colossians 3:23

https://www.bible.com/bible/111/COL.3.23

 

““You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”

Matthew 5:14-16

https://www.bible.com/bible/111/MAT.5.14-16

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Find a Way to Win!

When David went to take Goliath down (1Samuel Ch. 17), it took courage! He knew that they had to take down this bully!! So he got hungry! No matter who tried to talk him down/out of it, he still persisted because he knew that there was a need to take this giant down. Thus, he went to solve the problem. In Verse 32, David made known that ‘He got this!’ But Saul doubted his ability to fight Goliath by looking at his current track record (young man, only familiar with working with sheep). But David had to make known to Saul that he certainly could take down Goliath because he’s struct a bear before! He had to take down lions that tried to attack his sheep, so he knows that the Lord will deliver him from the hand of Goliath because many times before God delivered him from other vicious creatures.

32David said to Saul, “Let no one lose heart on account of this Philistine; your servant will go and fight him.” 33 Saul replied, “You are not able to go out against this Philistine and fight him; you are only a young man, and he has been a warrior from his youth.”
34 But David said to Saul, “Your servant has been keeping his father’s sheep. When a lion or a bear came and carried off a sheep from the flock, 35 I went after it, struck it and rescued the sheep from its mouth. When it turned on me, I seized it by its hair, struck it and killed it. 36 Your servant has killed both the lion and the bear; this uncircumcised Philistine will be like one of them, because he has defied the armies of the living God. 37 The Lordwho rescued me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will rescue me from the hand of this Philistine.”
 
This is the type of confidence and faith that we need to take when it comes to winning in our own situations in life! David didn’t have time to complain, he was determined to go for it! Despite Saul, the king, telling him that he can’t possibly win a battle over Goliath, David was only a young man. Reminding David that Goliath has been a warrior since his youth so he’s got years of experience as a warrior. David definitely proved that he turned Saul’s “can’t” into “can” when he triumphed over that giant with a sling and a stone (verse 50). Glad David didn’t listen to Saul when he mentioned that he couldn’t take down Goliath because he was only a young man.

Lesson: Raise up the standard to win! Give it all you’ve got. Do whatever it takes to find a way to win!  Regardless of what people say or do, remember what you are in it for and go get it! Naysayers will be there. They are likely to be the most influential people around you (your family/friends). Pay them no mind, keep pushing and aim to win!

Characteristics of a Winner:

  1. Hunger to Win
    • Know what you are doing this for! What’s your motive? Find your drive
    • Get HUN-gray!
  2. Needs Discover-er:
    Determine what needs to be done & “get er’ done!”
    Spirit of a ‘Go Getter’!
  3. Problem Solver
    • When people say you can’t, you show then that you can

What Winners Should Not Do:

  1. Complain
    1. Turn your complaints into a to-do list
    2. #ChopWood don’t let it build up
  2. Let others or problems get to you
    1. Stay focused on the end result
    2. Realize that obstacles will occur… just remain faithful until you reach the finish line
  3. Quit

Thanks for reading. God Bless Ya! 

Until next post…

-Kence

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Real (Neighbor) Love

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Happy Valentine’s Day, Folks!! In reflection about love, (in my singleness) I wanted to post about real love… even while single.

I have found that many people (often times, us women) ‘beef’ for others. Let’s make up a practical example. Example: My friend, Laura has a problem with April. I may have been friends with April previously, but because Laura is no longer friends with April, it causes me to be indifferent toward April for the sake of Laura (the ‘closer’ friend), even if April did nothing to offend me personally/directly. This is not exemplifying Christ-like behavior!! It is important that we think about the W.W.J.D. principles (“What Would Jesus Do?”) we learned when we were younger. Though this may seem so elementary, we have got to get back to the basics! After all, Jesus did say that whoever takes the lowly position of a child will be the greatest in the kingdom of heaven (Matthew 18:4) I like to interpret this as meaning that we must be humble and teachable.

What if Jesus did this to us?:

I can’t help but to imagine if April knew Jesus (back when He walked the earth). What if April went to Jesus and said, “I can’t stand Kence because she is always walking around overly confident like she cuter than me, don’t die for her sins, Jesus.” Or “Kence is such a horrible friend, she don’t call me (I don’t call her either) but she ain’t right! So Jesus, please don’t love her despite her flaws.” Or “Kence doesn’t hang with me any more, she thinks she somebody, Jesus don’t mess with her!” I would be horrified if Jesus actually listened to such bogus requests! Imagine! Thank God that Jesus does not have the ‘All-for-one’ attitude towards us! Thank God that the Lord isn’t influence by April, people or even my right or wrong doings! His grace is sufficient and his love is free (and it endures forever)! What if it was flipped and the Lord (who actually knows my shortcomings… the ones I wouldn’t even dare speak of), told April about them and said not to speak to me ever again! That’s crazy because the Lord really knows I’m not worthy. And all the facts He got on me, no one should be my friend at all, maybe ever! But thank God that He calls me friend and He remains a faithful friend despite my inadequacies and flaws. He could easily ‘cut me off,’ if He were using the same standards as Laura or April. But thank God that He was not all about that ‘All-for-one” stuff. My beef with others does not influence or change His love for me.

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What about Love?:

The bible is clear that love is the greatest/most important commandment. After loving the Lord your God, we are to love our neighbors as ourselves (Matt. 22: 37-40). We must love, above all because love covers a multitude of sins! (1 Peter 4:8) If we could get that part together than all else will be effortless. Ever hear the saying: ‘Love is blind,’ it means that once we love someone we can easily look over their flaws. This type of love should be shown beyond romantic relationships and to all of the people we encounter. If Laura and I could get our lives together and love April despite the drama, we would be able to see that it is a temporary limitation and something to simply correct (with love) and look over. We should extend love and grace to one another. Remember the Lord ’s Prayer: “Forgive us our trespasses (sins or shortcomings) as we forgive those who trespass against us.” (Matthew 6:12; Luke 11:4) If we remember how you needed to be forgiven, we will then freely extend the same type of forgiveness to others. This is not to say that this is an easy task! But it should be our aim to forgive as we have been forgiven.

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The Lesson:

I hope you (though convicted) were encouraged by this post on what real love for others should look like. I pray that God will give us the grace to genuinely love everyone without jumping on the team because others have their own disputes. Let’s be sure to settle our differences (Laura vs April) privately and quickly! (Matt. 5:25) If you quickly settle these concerns, you can move past them before bitterness sets in and makes it even harder to love your neighbor.

Let’s make every effort not to beef for others, rather let’s love them (including April) – just as we love ourselves. I know I love me! So that’s a lot of love I should be giving April! Pray for our friends like Laura that try to influence others to beef with people and jump on their team. This is not like a sport. It’s a bad habit! Let’s confront the Laura’s in our lives and show them what love should look like. Love should make us patient with others as they learn lessons and move past their current limitations/issues. Keep on loving the April’s in our lives that people do not want to extend their love to because of their blemishes. This will differentiate us from others. We know that we all have imperfections and have weak moments where we need an extension of compassion. This is our chance to show the love of the Lord in our action (and choice) to love. I really do live by the golden rule (Matt. 7:12) that say “so in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you”… Let’s forgive so we can be forgiven. Above all, let’s love so that we can be loved.

 

Until next post…

  • Kence

 

 

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Pace Yourself: Find Your Pace and Stick to it!

 

 

 

 My experience:

I love Spin! I take a cycling/ Spin fitness class every week at work. In class, the students listen to the instructor. The very fit instructor tells us the levels. I look around the room and see that people are warn out. They wear themselves out because they are trying to push themselves too hard. I like to find my pace. And go with it. If the instructor’s screaming “Level 15” but spinning faster than the students, I realize that I am not on ‘that’ level, so I find the level that will allow me to work just as hard and fast as she is. I want to keep up with the instructor but I know that if I stick to the numbers she’s calling out, I won’t be able to keep up. So I find a lower level, my level, and I keep up.

 

 Spiritual connection/ Inspiration:

Often times we look to people spiritually at another level than us and we go crazy trying to do things the way they do them. We shouldn’t do this because we overexert ourselves which can later cause disappointment. Find your own gift and pace and go with it. Not everybody can be a pastor of a church (too many chiefs, no Indians). We need some Indians that are good at what they do! Be a good singer, a good sound technician, a good usher/greeter, or just be a good general body member. Sometimes, we touch the most people by the general body members. These are the people visitors look to for support. Just be yourself. There is no two of you! Wherever you are in life, or in your spiritual journey, someone else is probably there too! Stop trying to keep up with the Jones’!! The people will sniff that out! They will know that’s not you… eventually you will not be as effective. You will remain effective if you are true to you! No faking. If you are a baby Christian sipping on milk, own it! Do what it takes to move from level 1 then to level 2, as you progress, remember where you came from and how you moved up so that you help carry someone else through. We meet people everyday. Every person we meet is on a different level. Some people are a few levels higher than you, and can drop a few dimes your way to help whenever you reach that level. Others may be a few levels lower than you, or where you were last week or last year. Have compassion and drop a few D.I.M.E.S (Divine Inspiration Meant to Encourage Spiritually) for them! They will need a little encouragement, just like you did and will.

 Lesson: You shouldn’t get lazy and stay on the same level the entire time, but you shouldn’t try to get on the instructors level just for the sake of keeping up. Find your pace and stick with it. Often times people out do things and then never complete tasks because they give up. If you go to cycling everyday and overexert yourself, the truth of the matter is that you will eventually get tired and quit. However if you find your pace and you keep at it for 3-4 times a week, you are more likely to maintain your commitment and stick it through! Find your pace & stick it through, people!  Don’t get content at “level 2”, because someday “level 2” won’t work anymore and you will not get the desired results until you go a level up to keep your body engaged. So don’t be afraid to try new levels until you find the one that’s just right. Once you find it, stick to it until its time to move up again, do not stay stagnant.

 

I love y’all lots! Until next post….

 

–          Kence

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Watch What You Eat!

In honor of the start of a new program, I decided to chat about what we eat! We must be concerned with what we are consuming, not just physically but spiritually.

Mark 7:15;18-19

15Noting outside a person can defile them by going into them. Rather, it is what comes out of a person that defiles them. 18Are you so dull?”He asked. “Don’t you see that nothing that enters a person from outside can defile them? 19 For I doesn’t go into their heart but into their stomach, then out of the body.” (In saying this, Jesus declared all foods clean.)

 

Matthew 15:17

17“Don’t you see that whatever enters the mouth goes into the stomach and then out of the body? 18But the things that come out of a person’s mouth come from the heart, and these defile them.19 For out of the heart come evil thoughts – murder, adultery, sexual immortality, theft, false testimony, slander.20 These are what defile a person; but eating with unwashed hands does not defile them.”

 

Jesus had to keep setting the Pharisees in their place! They knew their bible but they were always trying to ‘catch Jesus slippin’ on some law, any law. They didn’t want Him to heal on the Sabbath, they asked him hard questions, they were basically questioning everything He did to cross check it against the law. The Pharisee were pretty much the people that would be happy to call you and I a hypocrite today. They wanted any reason to say that Jesus wasn’t doing it right. Time and time again, Jesus has to remind them that they were not to live by these laws alone.

We must watch what we are feeding ourselves. Many times, with the mindset of getting that summer body beach-ready, we begin to eat healthier choices (fruits and veggies) and stay away from the food choices that go straight to the gut (fries, burgers, soda and chips). But have we considered our spirit man? What are we feeding him? Our bodies are a temple. And this temple (like our physical body) can easily get out of shape depending on what we’re feeding it (or even if we aren’t feeding it at all).

1 Corinthians 6:19

19Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not to own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your bodies.

The bible instructs us to remember that we were bought at a price and now these temples aren’t for us so we must honor God with them. Not only by taking care of what we feed them through food but also with the information we send to them. Believe it or not subliminal messages are everywhere. We have ear-gates, eye-gates, smell, touch, etc. There are signs that our brains catch that we may not catch right away.  For example the original coca-cola commercials used to be shown in movies just to get people to purchase drinks during the movies. Something so simple, was able to convince (subliminally tempt) people to buy the product.

Now lets look at what we feed ourselves today. Music. Ratchet TV. Regular everyday drama/gossip. These things can easily consume us and give us feelings that we didn’t begin the day with. For example, turn on a certain song, and all of a sudden your head is bobbing and later on you’re supper turnt and cant get it out of your head! Or if you play a sad love song, then find yourself still heartbroken about an ex-boyfriend/girlfriend from a year ago! Watch what you are feeding your ears. They will find their way to your heart. Ratchet TV… gosh did I love my weekly fix of Bad Girls Club! After a few seasons, I realized that this was feeding my ratchetness. I learned new ratchet behaviors and started adding to my ratchet vocabulary.  Lastly, daily drama amongst our friends is the same as ratchet TV, just the live version. Be careful what type of people you let stay around you… they will shape you! Pastor Shipman of Winners Church in Florida says this to his congregation every week, “you are who you hang around. If you hang with thieves, you will soon become a thief. If you hang with people of God, you will become a person of God. “ Essentially, the people around you will shape you. They will teach you their habits, without really sitting you down with a notebook while they write on the chalkboard. You will just pick it up. Ever notice when you can guess your closest friends next move just because you ‘know them?’ The same way you grow to know someone without them teaching you their ways, you can simply learn their habits. It’s almost contagious. So watch your temple! You don’t want to feed it bad things. Just like its easier to gain weight than to lose it, it is also easy to just feed your temple things that (temporarily) feel good rather than to feed your temple what is good for it (daily bible study, prayer, fellowship with other believers, etc). So lets get on a spiritual diet. Watch what you eat! Be intentional. Scrolling down your timeline out of boredom is a great way to waste time but will not help intentionally feed your spirit man. Use that time to read a verse bible verse (and study it) or pray for someone around you. We have to be intentional with our time. It is serious! I heard from Dave Ramsey that if we don’t tell our money where to go, we won’t know where it went. I believe that the same is true with our time. Lets plan out our days. (Like meal planning) Then we will know exactly what we are doing in our 24 hours and we will get more things done. For the glory of the Lord.

Welp, That’s all folks! 

Until next post… God Bless Y’all!

          Kence

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Having Fri-enemies is Normal!

Matthew 13:57- ...”a prophet is not without honor except in his own town and in his own home.

It’s normal not to be accepted by the people you expect to receive acceptance from.  Jesus went through this when he got back home (to Nazareth) after speaking in parables and doing miracles.  The people from his hometown did not accept him.  They ridiculed him bc He was one of them. There was ‘NOTHING special about Him.’

Haters will not want to see the change in you. They will expect you to look like them since y’all come from the same place.  But your image is in Christ.  You shouldn’t look like anyone else! You must look like Him! You’re true identity is Royalty!! They want you to be ‘bumming it’ but you were called for more!! You were called to do something different! They don’t like the change. So they mad?!! You’ve got to remind people who you are!!! Even back ‘home’ you’ve got to tell them you’re not like them!  Even your siblings or your family.  

 

 

 

The Bible says in Matthew that the prophet is not without honor except in their hometown or their own home.  So clearly,it’s expected that the family and friends will not believe in the work you are doing like others! Even when the people asked Jesus about his mother and brothers He said that His only brother and mothers were those that did the Will of Our father in Heaven!

Matt 12:48-50 (NIV): 47Someone told him, “Your mother and brothers are standing outside, wanting to speak to you.”

48He replied to him, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” 49Pointing to his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers. 50For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.”

Our real family is those that do the Will of God. That’s who ‘gets’ us!! They know how we feel.  Why we do what we do.  No extra explanation needed.  Don’t you hate repeating yourself for people to ‘get the joke.’ No need within this family.  It’s real!! They get it!! 

So my charge to you is to take courage and Keep on doing what you’re doing! Even if the people around you do not support your calling, don’t stop doing what you are doing! They won’t get it! But surround yourself with other believers (your real family) and iron will sharpen iron. Seek the Lords guidance as you ‘do what you do’ and He will perfect your ways and you will gain acceptance from who you are supposed to while gaining the favor of our Father in heaven. 

Until next Post,

-Kence

 

 

 

 

 

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