Are You a People Pleaser?

We can easily be people pleasers. Many times we worry about what people have to say and make that the influencer of our decisions. It is time that we stop people pleasing and simply aim to please God in whatever we are doing. So lets stop worrying about what people are thinking or what they may have to say and lets do what we KNOW is right according to the Word of God!

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Leaving the ‘Good Man’ in pursuit of God’s Best Match

Having faith is hard! The Bible says in Hebrews that Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. The NIV translation says it’s CONFIDENCE in what we hope for and assurance of what we do not see! (Hebrews 11:1)

It is tough to defend your faith to those that don’t have faith the way you do. I once had what people would call a ‘good man.’ (Let’s call him, George) He was friendly and charming to everyone he met. But he wasn’t what I was praying for. George was nice and patient.  He was friendly to the people he met.  So naturally when I decided to leave, everyone including him was confused. They then turned to say things like, “You’re too picky!” “You don’t know what you really want!” “You’ll never find a man because you’re looking for perfection.” These comments are those that stem from people who don’t understand my faith! 
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I decided a few years ago that I would be celibate and wait on the Lord to bring me my Husband. I had a really detailed dream back in September 2013 and the Lord basically told me that I better take heed to Matthew 6:33 (But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.)

 I like to call this dream my #Bobby dream. (Bob, Like Bone of my Bone 😉) Shortly after the Bobby dream, I wrote down very vague qualities for “Mr. Right.” It said Patient. Friendly. And something about dealing with my nasty attitude. Sometime after, I met a ‘good guy’ and I just wanted it to work so bad. Perhaps because by then I was tired of seeing my friends get married, have children and leave me behind. So I desperately accepted the attention. My justification: it wasn’t like I was dating a ratchet thug from the streets of Miami, FL or Newark, NJ. The George’s I’ve dated were kinda Christian (go to church when it’s convenient and believe in God). Pleasant. Fun to hang with and talk to. But not what I needed to sustain a family of 8. I know (now) that I need a patient Man of God that recognizes that we are children of the King and have a standard of living. (Kreole: Gin yon Jan pou’l ye!) We’re set apart. We should not be ‘dating’ like others.  We shouldn’t be living like others. Things should be a little different for us. Even if they deem us a misfit, it’s ok!! We’re #KingdomApproved. 👑

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 2Corinthian 6:14- Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? Being unevenly yoked isn’t simply for unbelievers and Christians. It’s also with people that are in different places on their faith than you.  My convictions may be different than the people that have been around me for years. I’m growing! They may be growing at a slower pace or they may even be stagnant.  It then becomes my responsibility to lead and be the example. (Which can become tiring because the Man is the Head of the Home). 

So while I was with this George, I sat and wrote a DETAILED list of must haves for #Bobby (Kindhearted Man of God led by the Spirit that can gently correct me when I’m wrong. Praying man who isn’t afraid to express his love for the Lord, even if that means shedding a tear during praise and worship). Not meaning the past Georges were mishaps or screw ups.  George was just an eye opener for me!  I have gained friendships with all of them but have decided that I can’t stay just because he’s a ‘good man’ according to people. George was/is a good man, he’s just not what I have been believing God for. I am confident that although the Bone of my Bone (‘Bobby’) isn’t here yet, he WILL come. And the Lord will fulfill my heart’s desires (Psalms 37:4-5) as I trust in Him and wait patiently for Him to come through!! 

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To my single sisters dating a ‘good man’ but your gut/heart isn’t settled.  Keep praying and seek the Lord’s Will/purpose for your life. Being single is a beautiful thing. But it may get lonely. That’s when you lean on your fellow single sisters until the Lord sends you you’re BOBby! He will be serious and want to court you the right way. There will be no second guessing. He will take your relationship seriously and treat you like a delicate flower.  He will love you like Christ loved the church. He can only do that if he KNOWS himself how much Christ loved the church.  Be sure he is equipped to lead your home, because you’ll need to submit to that man! I hope this encourages someone that it’s ok to leave the ‘good man’ in order to pursue the Lord’s Purpose for your life.  Trust what you know! Believe even if others don’t see things the way you do. 

Until next post,

May the Lord Bless y’all!

– Kence 

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Victory Over Death

 

 

1 Corinthians 15: 54-57

54When the perishable has been clothed with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality, then the saying that is written will come true: “Death has been swallowed up in victory.”
55“Where, O death, is your victory?
Where, O death, is your sting?”
56The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. 57But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.

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Saving it for a day like today: It’s raining!! (Procrastination)

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I have a Pinterest account where I post numerous ideas of things I want to do someday. I started to realize, I have A LOT of pins/likes that I have not gotten to yet. The main reason is procrastination. We often use the phrase “saving it for a rainy day.” Well, when is the rainy day? I challenge you to take a look at your goals and To Do list and choose something to do today! It’s raining outside! Literally, today its raining in New Jersey but in your life, this means today is the day for your to stop waiting. Get something done. Whether that’s cleaning out a closet you keep holding off on, getting that new pair of shoes you keep waiting for a better sale on, or even cooking that new dish you keep putting off. Just do it! You’ll be happy it was raining outside (you decided to do it). Lets not be lazy! Get er’ done!

Proverbs 14:23 : All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.

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Beat the Bully to his gun!

I grew up bigger than the average kid in my class. I used to get bullied. My sister was my very best friend and I would come home to hint at the fact that I was being picked on. We used to make up Rap songs together. And she helped me by simply telling me to start things off by saying “I’m fat! Now what?!?” After I put it out there, there was not much else the bullies had to use against me. I knew I was smart and beautiful so they couldn’t tell me a lie about my intelligence or my cute face. This is the same method with the enemy of our soul! We must shame the devil and move past the silence! He wants us to keep quiet so that he can trick us to believe things that are untrue!

The devil will make his best attack at the things that you are keeping silent. The name of the game is simply to beat the bully to his gun! Our heavenly Father is merciful and full of grace. We can come to Him genuinely and ask Him to forgive our sins. Lay it all at His feet! When you move past the silence that the Bully (the devil) is trying to keep us at, we BEAT him to his gun! Once we shame the devil by speaking what he wants us to keep quiet about, we just took away his weapon against us! He has nothing on you!

My people: Don’t keep quiet! Praise the Lord, oh my soul, and forget not his benefits (Psalms 103:2)! Lets brag about the Truth! What has the Lord done for you!? Where did He bring you out from!? #Testify #ShameTheBully

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Even When it Hurts… I’ll Praise You

I pray that you are inspired by this skit. Even during the pain and hurt, we should find it in us to praise God even when it makes no sense!

 

Production Created by Wono Owoseni

Song: Even When it Hurts by Hillsong

I pray  that you are inspired by this skit. Even during the pain and hurt, we should find it in us to praise God even when it makes no sense!

Actress: Wonu; Actor: Azuka; Band: Tunde, Funsho, Dan & Jabari

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Looking For Your Soulmate #Butterfly

“If its a soul mate, you can let it go…Trust that the Lord will bring it back if they’re the One!”

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No need to be afraid to let Mr. Right go, because eventually he will come back if he’s really the one that God has ordained from you. You and them will only have divine confirmation for one another. Stay rooted. Know that if you both are seeking the Will of the Lord, both of you will know! Your purpose and his purpose will be aligned. There should be no second guessing. Take your time if you need to… just  know that He who finds a wife, finds a good thing! (Proverbs 18:22). It may take a while to finally hit the jackpot! When you know, you know! If you don’t know, the answer is probably no. Don’t try to get God to bless it by  making up excuses. There are marriages that man puts together and then the ones that God puts together. Wait for the Lord’s confirmation. He will guide you to the right one!

Credit: Pastor Toure Roberts of One Church LA (5 Keys To Identifying Your SoulMate: https://youtu.be/sJutjZ5mm9E)

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Trust In The Lord- He’s the GOOD source

When I was in Highschool, I was in a Calculus class that was pretty darn tough. That class almost kicked my butt. I found myself in a place where I was cheating (i know…tsk tsk. I’ve been delivered!) One of my friends found the answer key to our midterm exam. He got the answer key to me. I was clever in where I hid the key because my teacher was pretty smart and checked our desks, hands and notes to ensure we weren’t cheating. On top of that, he walked around the room to make sure that we weren’t doing anything suspicious. My sneaky self used a strategy (that i will not expose because I do not condone cheating) that allowed me the opportunity to occasionally get the answers without getting caught. I purposefully chose to not get a 100% because I knew my teacher knew I was smart but not 100% kinda smart ;-). So I got an 89%. I glanced at my source when I knew the coast was clear. Even if that meant occasionally catching as many answers as I could (photographic memory), I knew that I could trust the source and whenever I could get to it (Proverbs 18:10) , I would have the right answers circled on my test.

God dropped a #Dimes on me today to remind me that He has all of the answers to this really tough test called life. Isaiah 26:4 says Trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord himself is the Rock eternal. He is the ROCK! He is the answer! Just as my cheating self trusted in the the answers my cheating friend gave me back in highschool, trust in the Lord. He is the Rock. He is the best source! He has the answer key.

Prayer: Lord give me the grace to trust you blindly. Help me to exercise faith and trust that you have the answers I need!

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